Conversation Toolkit for Success: Declarations

Are you treading water in your personal or professional life? Declarations open up new worlds of possibility.

Maybe you haven’t committed to something you’ve been twirling around in your mind.

Like everyone else, I sometimes need a kick in the pants to finally take a stand. Over the last couple of years I have declined work that I no longer find interesting despite the money it might bring. I have found time to experiment in other areas with great satisfaction. I don’t know where it will lead but the steps in that direction are satisfying despite the qualms. I’ve acted by taking part in creative workshops after years of whining about wanting to do so. The art I’ve created in process painting workshops adorn my office walls. Even if no one else sees them, I am happy just looking at them. Plus I have a new set of creative compadres I wouldn’t have met had I not taken the plunge in a weekly creative writing class.

Consider what declarations you could make that would change your world.


Consider the following:

  • Am I declaring what I know to be true?
  • Do I hesitate for fear of what I may be called upon to do?
  • Do I sense that there is no recovery from the effects of my declaration?
  • Am I unwilling to let go of what is in order to discover what could be?
  • Have I reflected enough to know where I stand in order to make a declaration?
  • Do I know what new worlds I want to create?

    • The daring and the “simple” declarations can have profound effects:


    • “I love you? creates new space and possibilities for two people. It doesn’t matter you have been married 30 years (she should know, right?) or are newly in love. Hearing those 3 words is powerful. Who doesn’t want to know they are truly loved?

    • “You are hired/fired” creates a new world for the candidate and new possibilities for the organization.

    • “I quit” changes your life, hopefully for the right reasons and in the right direction, for now at least! Life is no longer lukewarm or stale.

    • Thank you. This brings closure to a situation.

    • Yes and No. Have you been frustrated when someone doesn’t give you a straight answer? Think twice before leaving someone guessing.

    • I’m sorry. An apology changes the psychological and emotional landscape.

    • “Well done!” Let someone know she has met your stated needs and that her contribution was recognized.

    Go ahead. Take a stand and watch what happens.

    Meg Ellis Conversation Toolkit, Executive Coaching



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